“Grief offers a wild alchemy that transmutes suffering into fertile ground” ~Francis Weller
In traditional cultures Grief was and is a shared responsibility of the community or village. For
thousands of years people have been practicing grief rituals and ceremonies to help those suffee ring
from loss emerge into a new state of being. With support, grief is bearable and can even be initiatory
into a new way of being.
Unfortunately in our Modern Day era grief has largely gone underground. No longer is it something
we do out in the open or in community, its become a very private process which can leave
individuals feeling overwhelmed or over-burdened by the task at hand. Even the way we deal with
death in our culture has become a very isolating thing, some say we live in a death phobic culture.
Where death has been pushed to the margins of our mind and become the enemy or seen as some
kind of personal failure.
In my work with people who are dealing with loss and/or dying, I try to dispel some of these deeply
misinformed cultural beliefs and help people learn the skill of living with loss. Ultimately we will all
face loss at one time or another and if we can begin to shift our mindset and experience around what
is happening to us I believe we can begin to finn d something sacred and beautiful in the process of
grief. Thii s has been my own personal experience and I know it is possible for others to heal from
deep loss and walk through sorrow skillfully. Thie re is great beauty and even joy to be found there
once we understand how to welcome loss as an initiatory process to life.