I am a Registered Professional Counsellor with over 10 years experience working with couples, individuals and families. I work within the framework of attachment based counselling, using tools from family systems, Somatic Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy and Narrative Therapy. I am trauma-informed and am currently working towards my Somatic Experiencing Certificate.
We are by nature relational beings. Culturally we are facing a subtle crisis within our intimate relationships. Communication breakdown, betrayal, loss of trust and unresolved conflict are some of the common themes I see as a relationship counsellor....
Trauma and Stress
Trauma is not the event but how our body processes a distressing situation. Peter Levine describes Trauma as: "any unresolved autonomic nervous system response. It's about the nervous system's response to an event, not necessarily the event itself. From that perspective healing and working with trauma must happen at the level of the nervous system...
I have deep reverence for death and loss. Grief is part of life. However many of us lack the skills and the support to know how to allow the processing of deep loss. Traditionally we relied on the support of a village to get us through these transitionary moments and without that many people suffer alone or end of shutting down the pain because our culture tells us endings are a failure.
"I had just moved to Vancouver and gone through a big break up. I was feeling quite down about it all and had a negative mindset. You listened and gave me some of the best advice ever. You turned my perspective around to a positive one and I haven't looked back ever since! I wanted to thank you for giving me the strength and courage to push ahead and become the stronger, happier and more confident person I am today."
I learned a long time ago the wisest thing I can do is be on my own side, be an advocate for myself and others like me.
- Maya Angelou