As a counsellor I draw from a variety of modalities depending on the individual needs of the client. Currently I am working on obtaining my Certificate in Somatic Experiencing which is a body-oriented approach to the healing of Trauma and other Stress Disorders.
I have also studied Family Systems Theory. Through the frame of systems theory, we are inextricably linked to and a product of our family of origin, our upbringing and our culture . Being a part of any system has its inevitable patterns and models of behavior. We learn first and foremost from our environment and the people closest to us. This goes even beyond our immediate family to the generations before us. Drawing on these insights, I look at the history of losses, relationship dynamics as well as the trauma that may have been passed down through generations.
This way of seeing yourself and how you relate to the world offers you the chance to change your perceptions and your behaviors, by empowering you to chose who you want to be in the middle of a struggle. Often this choice involves doing the opposite of what your instinctual fear-based response is telling you to do. With enough awareness and a willingness to do your own personal healing work, I believe everyone is capable of having healthy, fulfilling and loving relationships.
Counselling can allow you to become an active participant in your own life and healing process., where in a sense, you become the composer of your own story. We can't change the things that happen to us, but we can change how we react to these events and situations.
“Every situation, properly perceived, becomes an opportunity to heal.”